Being D/s and a Parent
Day 28 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s
As I write this, I have 2 children in my home. I think I am in a unique situation regarding sexuality topics because all my kids know my future professional plans. I am currently in grad school for counseling psychology, my undergrad was focused on human sexuality and women and gender sexuality studies. In short, I plan to be a Sex Therapist.
Therefore, when it comes to talking about sexuality in our home, it is something my children have grown up with. They have always known they could ask me any question and they are going to get a straight answer, sometimes more than they bargained for lol. When my oldest (now 19 and not at home) was 9, she came in from the school bus and asked, innocently, what a blow job was. I proceeded to tell her exactly what it was, and of course asked where she had heard it, etc. The funny part was that the entire conversation took place right in from of her 75-year-old grandfather, and he was shocked. Although, I am still not sure what surprised him more, the fact she asked or that I very simply answered her honestly.
So, when my partner and I decided to integrate D/s into our relationship, not much has changed. When there are children in the home, I always must be careful to be quiet when there is kinky fuckery going on. I can get quite loud 😉. However, there have been non-sexual conversations that have occurred around the children, especially my almost 15-year-old. I understand that many may disagree with my openness and honesty with my children. However, it is important to me to raise sex-positive children that bare no shame in their sexuality, wants and desires.
As a bonus, my 15-year-old is a techy, she is the one to whom I ask website questions. She is attempting to help me learn the lingo. She has not read any of my posts, and at this point does not want to, but she often knows the topic or title of a post and has worked in my dashboard.
So, as far as the day to day, being a parent and being D/s do not really collide. Being honest about who I am, and why I feel what I do is too important to me to keep from my children, as it is appropriate for them to learn and understand.
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