Dazed and Confused


Is this really a possibility?  I sit here and wonder if this nagging feeling that I just cannot seem to let go of it stupid, a waste of time, or maybe, just maybe… possible.  When I ask close family and friends that understand (most of) my kinks and sexual stance, some are very supportive.  “Do what you want, people will either love it or hate it,” they say.  Others are a little more constructively critical.  Do I have a unique voice in the sex information/blogging/website stratosphere????? And the honest answer to that question is most likely no.  There are tons of websites and blogs devoted to sex, kink, even mental health and understanding how they all cohabitate.  So I find my self struggling to decide if this is something I really want to do.

When I am at my most mindful, it is still there.  My biggest dream would be to offer a go to resource for the intersectionality of sex, gender, mental health, knowledge and understanding.  Now, I do not and will never claim to be the all knowing sexpert (blah, I hate that word).  What I would love to be able to do is be a hub in a way, a place where people at all different levels of understanding can go and either find the information they are searching for, or be directed to honorable, sincere, accurate information.  There is so much noise on the internet, that even a simple Google search can be extremely overwhelming to just about anyone.  Wouldn’t it be nice to have a one stop shop kind of thing?

One thing I am contemplating is the potential for kink friendly, sex-positive tech based counseling services (after I have completed my current program and get licensed, of course).  Anyone that has any understanding of the kink lifestyle typically has some knowledge of how difficult it can be to integrate those inclinations with their everyday “vanilla” life.  And no one should be excluded from assistance based solely on there geographic location.  And anyone that finds themselves with kink related attributes should be able to completely open and honest with their therapist.  Unfortunately, therapists and counselors, are regular human beings, filled with their own prejudices and understandings of stereotypes.  Luckily, thanks to the hard work of groups such as ASSECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) a change is slowly emerging.  Even diagnoses found in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5) have drastically changed over the last decade in regards to sexual related dysfunctions.  And personally I hope for even bigger changes in the future.

So there it is, my ramblings in my head.  I do not know if I am any closer to making a decision, but at least I understand my dreams a little more, even if they have to wait.

Thanks for stopping by – raxleanne

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