Sex on Demand
Day 20 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s
Many D/s or power exchange relationships include sexual availability as part of their negotiations. It is not uncommon for a submissive to agree to being 100% sexually available to their Dominant. But what does this really mean?
In general, any kind of sexual encounter within a D/s dynamic will fall within the health and physical wellbeing of the individuals. That is, a Dominant is not likely to initiate sex when they do not feel well, neither should they initiate when their submissive is unwell, physically or mentally. As with any kink, consent ONLY applies when the individual possesses the availability to give their consent. Therefore, being sexually available is still bound by consent.
That being said, being sexually available 24/7 typically means that a Dominant can request, take, or initiate sex whenever they desire. This can be amazing. As a submissive, with a high sex drive, the idea of just being told “Now” is such a turn on. It also has the added side benefit of taking away any expectation for me to initiate any sexual encounter, which outside of D/s relationships has been a personal issue of mine.
So where do you sit on the spectrum of sexual availability? Are you a nighttime only, 24/7, only certain days or atmospheres, or has sexual availability even been discussed in your D/s relationship? Drop a comment, I’d love to hear from you.
As always – thanks for stopping by – raxleanne
The topic for this post was provided as part of LovingBDSM’s 30 days of D/s, which can be found here. if you would like to join in, check them out. If not, still check them out, they are great people doing great things for the D/s Community and so much more.