Day 26 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s
When I think about D/s, I tend to think of sexual submission; being completely controlled during sexual play is a major turn on. However, when I consider the idea of going 24/7, I am conflicted. There are plenty of positive things that a 24/7 dynamic offers; security is perhaps the biggest benefit. When you are in a 24/7 D/s dynamic, there is no time to wonder how your D/s relationship is doing, because you (hopefully) are reminded on a regular basis. I envision a 24/7 dynamic as a bunch of set protocols that reinforce the limits and rules.
I know my personal control issues keep me from trusting anyone enough to give over complete control in every aspect of my life. However, I have a deep respect for people that can, on both sides of the slash, give control over or take on that responsibility. Further, I wonder if I have the patience to move at someone else’s pace. Do not get me wrong, I understand that consent must always be freely given and can be revoked at any time. However, that is perhaps the biggest reason I am leery of 24/7 D/s, I do not want to be the type of person that changes their mind often. Waffling back and forth is a pet peeve of mine.
In short, right now in my life 24/7 is not the right fit. Perhaps in the months and years to come my Dom and I can consider something closer to 24/7, just not yet ;).
So, I would love to hear how others have made the journey. Are you in a 24/7 dynamic? Did you jump all in, or were there steps that got you there? Or maybe you are like me, and think it just does not fit you at this point?
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The topic for this post was provided as part of LovingBDSM’s 30 days of D/s, which can be found here. if you would like to join in, check them out. If not, still check them out, they are great people doing great things for the D/s Community and so much more.