Day 29 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s
My Dominant is new to BDSM, D/s, and really Kink as a whole. So, there is a whole world of kink to explore together. The problem is, where to start?
Well for us the simplest way to start was with a limit list. Over the years I have compiled an extensive (though surely still incomplete) list of kinks. You can get your copy of the list here. I sent this to my partner, and we started going through the list, discussing the things that intrigued us both, and pointed out to each other the items that were absolute nos (hard limits). We picked out a handful of things that we were really excited about.
In some cases, research and education has been necessary. Having been more exposed to kinks myself, some of this I have been able to explain or demonstrate some things. Honestly that provides it’s own fun. However, there are things that we have discovered we both are drawn to that we have no knowledge of, and only need to know where to find the knowledge. It is times like these that I am so thankful for the online kink community.
As mentioned in previous posts, we live in what is often referred to as a kink desert. For example, rope bondage is something I find sexy, fascinating, and would love to know more about. I know many dungeons offer classes, however, to my knowledge the closest dungeon to us is almost 3 hours away, and apparently a tight knit community. In a perfect world, money and distance would not be an issue and we could access the education locally. Don’t we all wish that were true? For now, we are resolved to finding resources online. I am actively trying to make reputable connections with other kinksters, building connections is, in my opinion, the best way to learn about other resources.
Exploring kinks together is perhaps my favorite aspect of D/s. Learning the things that turn each other on, and how to implement them into our kinky play is so much fun.
So, as always, I am curious… Is there a kink that you are specifically interested in? How have you learned to implement it into your D/s or kinky relationship? Do you know of any resources that help people learn about kinks?
Always curious – raxleanne
P.S. As my 30 days of D/s exploration comes to a close I am on the lookout for more topics that my readers may be interested in. If you have any suggestions for topics, or just something specific you want to know more about, feel free to send me an email firstname.lastname@example.org or follow me on Twitter/Instagram @raxleanne I’d love to hear from you.
The topic for this post was provided as part of LovingBDSM’s 30 days of D/s, which can be found here. if you would like to join in, check them out. If not, still check them out, they are great people doing great things for the D/s Community and so much more.