Day 18 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s
Is it possible to be kinky without having sex? Some might find it hard to understand, but there are plenty of ways that you can be kinky that do not directly involve sexual intercourse. In fact, many dungeons do not allow sex on the premises due to city ordinances and such. I know, I know… in many cases the people playing may be going home to have sex. However, not necessarily. There are times when people negotiate a one-time scene, in most of these cases they do not involve sex.
Types of non-sexual D/s
Another dynamic that can be successful without kink is a D/s or other power exchange. One good example of this is LDR (long distance relationships), there are plenty of LDR D/s couples that go an extended period between visits, some even years. They are not able to have sexual contact, yet the power exchange can very much be a large part of their dynamic.
I previously had an online only D/s relationship, and due to the rules and protocols that we set in place, I grew in my submission leaps and bounds without ever having been in the same room. Sexual submissives may struggle at first with a no-sex dynamic, I did, but found that the intimacy and connection was strong enough to fulfill me for the time we were in the power exchange.
My current relationship
In my current relationship, we are trying to negotiate some non-sexual power exchange. Our struggle lies in not having as much experience; me with non-sexual in person submission, him with taking control outside of the bedroom. I would love for our D/s to be 24/7, some day it will get there.
So, give me some ideas… what non-sexual ways do you express your D/s.
As always – thanks for stopping by – raxleanne
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