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Day 21 of 30 days of self-exploration through D/s

Subfrenzy- is that state of mind during a new D/s relationship when the idea of submission is overwhelmingly excited.  When a submissive wants to do ‘all of the things’, submit to every conceivable request of their dominant and give up the most control.  There are dangers inherent to subfrenzy as well.  For example, a submissive in subfrenzy may grant consent to their dominant for areas that, when they are in their normal way of thinking, they may disagree with or regret.

When subfrenzy hits home

My first experience with subfrenzy was comical when I look back on it now.  I see the desperate submissive doing everything possible to please my dominant without any thought to my own desires, limitations, and best interests.  One example of this was my dominants desire to have me kneel for long periods of time.  Many submissives kneel as part of their submission, so of course I jumped into the idea.  However, I have extremely bad joints and multiple compression fractures in my back.  The act of kneeling as part of my submission decreased my already weakened circulation to my distal joints and caused problems in one of my ankles that led to surgery.  I failed to consider the effect of the kneeling on my physical health because I just wanted to serve my dominant.

However, I am not immune to subfrenzy now, as my relationship moves into D/s, I find my excitement sometimes gets the best of me and I want things, or to offer things that can be hazardous.  My Dominant and I have agreed that any new protocols will have a delay, giving us both time to consider if there are any modifications that need to be made.  So far, there have not been any issues, and it is my hope by delaying, logistics will be apparent and keep us both safe.

As always – thanks for stopping by – raxleanne


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